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Subject:Passive, Cynical, Undeserving Men Wanting Beautiful Women with Character
Time:01:33 pm
Current Mood:contemplativecontemplative
My boyfriend's friend is but another disillusioned (and delusional) Korean man out there who has a serious problem, and gives meaning to the Korean expression "live to your fraction." He's one of the many single, depressed Korean men in k-town perusing from bedsheet to bedsheet after club to club during the weekends, feeding scantily clad "Grade-C" (because "Grade-A" ktown girls are supposed to be higher maintenance and takes more effort) women excessive shots of Crown until they happily saunter off to the ritualistic noraebang facade and then stumble to his k-town studio. It's one thing if he is enjoying the "life" as he lives it, but he is k-town hoe prowler by weekend and depressed cynic by weekday (and by daylight), embittered by his state of singledom, sneering and muttering smart-ass-yet-utterly-depressed half-wit comments of sarcasm to any sign of warmth and mirth shared by couples around him, complaining.

Complaining that there are no "good women" out there, and that he will never get married to a decent girl and no woman will love him for who he is and all the desirable females of this world are already taken and he is doomed into a dark life of singledom or being married to someone who does not meet his standards.

Yet his standards are as follows: a woman that is tall, beautiful, full of character, smart, witty, fun, Catholic, God-loving, well-educated, career-minded, good cook, current events savvy, glowing with happiness, good-natured, understanding, and has heart of gold. In other words, the type who will passionately fight for issues important to her, appreciates goodness in people, bakes cookies every week and still loves having sex two times a day.

Being the girlfriend of one of his best friends, there used to be a tacit possibility that I might help provide this goddess of perfection to his surely deserving hands. What I fail to understand is how his self-destructing vicious cycle of weekend distractions and repelling pessimistic attitude will attract the woman of his dreams to him, and how he believes only she with those characteristics above is worthy of him. As I have faithfully singled out my female friends, all the "cute" ones are either taken, have too many issues, and all the "smart, funny and fun" ones are too average-looking and lack sex appeal.

What is it? Could it be the classic case of being raised as a Korean Boy (with a capital B), deemed as the "best" and "best-deserving" throughout childhood by his faithful mother, who has brainwashed him throughout life to think he should always be First, and given the best toys? Or is it a clinical sense of disillusionment that he can just sit and be assured that his caliber of lifestyle, mental state and personality is inversely proportional to what quality of woman will come his way and fall in love with him? What could it possibly be?

Well, I've finally given up, and I do wish him the best, but I'm wondering if this mental state and disillusionment is a trend that many us see elsewhere.
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puddingdog
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Time:2004-12-31 07:46 pm (UTC)
Most men have it -- it doesn't matter what color of their skin is: white, black, yellow or green. It is sad, but what can one do? I'm surprised that your boyfriend didn't give his best friend a dose of reality check here. But then, the guy you just described above isn't the kind who listens, is he?
Quite sadly, some women are just as bad. Can't think of any examples now though.
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(Anonymous)
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Time:2005-01-28 08:56 pm (UTC)
woohoo...you've posted again...unless all your posts are invisible, and private...then booo...hehehe...

hope you're doing well T...as for the guy, wow...that does sound bad...i promise i'll stop sleeping around now...for reals...haha...but yeah, sometimes the first step to getting a girl is knowing who you are and what you have to offer. How do you expect Miss perfect to come to you if you arent willing to be her Mr. Perfect? just done by a man who has his own amount of introspection.

Anyhow, hope you are doing well, and i'll see you on sat...peace

bennie
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ninjabob42
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Time:2005-09-28 02:48 pm (UTC)
Well I am under the impression that there are very few "nice" girls out there, especially in Orange County. It seems that there is an influx of self-centered and materialistic attitude through-out OC. And it is tough for a guy to find a quality girl (I guess just as difficult for the ladies to find a quality guy). But I tend to be a nice guy, attentive and caring...etc. and I have had quite a few disappointments out here, where it seems like someone cares...and they trick me (clever girls) But all I am looking for is a nice, cute girl. Not much more than that honestly. just a nice, cute girl, but they seem rare as of late (I may be in the wrong place, at the wrong time, or maybe the right place at the right time, just the wrong person...
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